It has been said that what we are praying for, is always determined by the consciousness that we are praying from. What that means to me is that although we don't always get what we are praying for, we always get what we are praying from. Which is probably why the early church mystic, St. Augustine said: "What we are looking for is what we are looking with and at."
When we pray for abundance from a consciousness of lack, instead of getting more abundance, we increase our abundance of lack. When we pray for a meaningful relationship from a consciousness of loneliness, instead of meeting the right person, we increase our fear of loneliness. When we pray for healing and wholeness from a consciousness of disease, we increase our fear of the very disease we are hoping to be healed from.
In other words, the consciousness from which we pray becomes our personal command center within that universal Intelligence that we call God or Spirit. For me, prayer is really about thinking from the highest point of view. So that when I pray, I am aware that this universal presence that I call God which is available to everyone, outwardly mirrors the inner consciousness, from which I am projecting my thinking. In this context, the consciousness from which I am praying becomes much more important than what I am praying for.
That is, if I am praying for wholeness, I must stop talking about sickness and become grateful for the wholeness that already exists in my body. If I a praying for abundance, I must stop talking and acting out Lack and begin affirming that all my needs are always abundantly supplied. If I am praying for a life-partner, I must stop talking about how lonely I am and how few available men or women there are in my world and trust that the person whom I am seeking is already seeking me.